Same-sex marriage is a relatively new phenomenon that has bloomed only in the past decade. Taking that into account, the main issue with the acceptance of same-sex marriage is its place in the lives of people who believe that same-sex marriage is sinful or wrong, like Christians. So, with that also in mind, I will attempt to decipher why we do not accept same-sex marriage. I will also explain why I think same-sex marriage should be accepted.
I live in Texas, a conservative state where if you aren’t Christian, you aren’t part of the majority. Yes, it is a very nice state to live in, with nice folks holding the door to the entrance of a store, and thank yous abundant everywhere. That is because of the Christian upbringing of many adults in Texas. But as a result of this deep Christian soaking, there are many principles that are left over from several millenia ago.
Why same-sex marriage isn’t normal
Same-sex marriage, in my mind, will never be the same as different-sex marriage, or “normal” marriage.
Yes, I support same-sex marriage. But do you expect somebody brought up all his life in Christervative Texas to seriously change their complete mindset about marriage? One of the first things we learn in life is that (for children who grew up in a traditional family) our biological parents are married, and our dad is a male, and our mom is a female. So when they learn two males or two females can all of a sudden marry, a fact of life that is very deep and simple is suddenly altered. The only ways to change this is either through painful brainwashing of every single citizen – illegal, or raise the next generation with a recognition that same-sex marriage is okay. Look at the racist southerners in the 1960’s Bible Belt. Birmingham, Alabama. Selma. The racist southerners (I would assume they are white and Christian too) were so racist that I do think they were imprinted with that subconscious hate forever. But their children might not have as much hate because schools teach them about racial equality and how bad slavery was. Sure, the children might be slightly racist still because of what their parents said, but just like the transfer of energy always releases heat, the same “heat” is not transferred and only part of the energy (hate) is transferred, probably even diluted with a Solution of Tolerance.
Why Christian principles could be dated
Before you get riled up at me, let me say that most Christian principles still apply. This includes a general sense of peace and loving each other, and I continue to feel that these principles will only enhance one’s life. If anything, the verses of the Bible are intended to keep us in check, to make sure we don’t go crazy and start killing people. The verses of the Bible are what allow our posterity to hold the store entrance door and be thanked.
However, the Bible was written millenia ago, and some principles do not apply anymore, like same-sex marriage. These dated principles were certainly applicable for the Hebrews, which did not have even a fraction of the population of the United States today. That meant in order to grow, the Bible and the Abrahamic God had to command men to reproduce with women, so that there was indeed a posterity. This was the only way to maintain the civilization.
(I am not Christian, and I am sorry if I offended you in any way. I am simply stating what I currently think. If the Abrahamic God knows there is more to same-sex marriage, then hopefully he discloses this to me.)
Why same-sex marriage isn’t wrong
Today, this isn’t an issue. With our world population exceeding seven billion people, we really don’t need growth of population. If anything, some children who become orphaned need parents, and since same-sex parents, especially those who are male, cannot create a child with 100% of their own DNA, they would adopt a child instead and love that child deeply.
What really hurts me is that some people or organizations, who are mainly religious, continue to stand opposed to same-sex marriage, and cannot accept that it is allowed. Some organizations that fit into this category include Chick-fil-A and the Westboro Baptist Church. And hating is a sin, according to Christianity.
Other than same-sex marriage being wrong per the Bible, there isn’t much of a reason to hate same-sex marriage. If somebody thinks “eww, that’s disgusting,” that is a personal preference and opinion and isn’t substantiated by fact. My previous points have already been bursts of facts, and I will make another fact apparent.
- If you are heterosexual and you just happen to dislike the concept of homosexuality, does it directly affect you?
- No, you didn’t become homosexual. In addition, if you don’t want to be with homosexuals, that is fine.
- If you are murdered purposefully, does that directly affect you?
- Yes, you are dead! It goes without saying that death changes everything about you. Somebody wanted and knowingly wanted to inflict harm onto yourself.
- If you are verbally harassed, does that directly affect you?
- Yes, somebody has directly attacked you, and you probably have miserable feelings after. Once again, somebody wanted and knowingly wanted to inflict harm.
- If a homosexual is attracted to you and mentions this to you, only to be rejected by you, does that directly affect you?
- Yes, but not in a purposefully harmful way. They were only asking, and only if they continued to press on would they be wrong.
Same-sex marriage doesn’t really directly affect parties who do not want to be involved, while murder and harassment do indeed directly affect parties who do not want to be involved.
How to make same-sex marriage normal
For starters, put gay marriage in children’s books. This will tell the child at an early stage that marriage is between two people who love each other. And that is my final point; why stop two people who love each other from marrying? They want to live together, to support each other. And if you don’t want to do that with someone of the same sex, same-sex marriage isn’t really affecting you and you shouldn’t control others.
Why did I write this?!
I am not trying to throw kerosene on the fire, but just my justification on stop hating people who aren’t causing you any harm directly. Just like the principles of the Bible, all I want is love and acceptance. I will finish off with a quote from a friend of mine, who is Christian. Although I do not agree with all of its content, it shows most of my opinions are shared by even some Christians.
Love the sinner, hate the sin. There is no malice in my heart towards people who recognize as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or Transexual. I do believe it’s a sin, but so is discriminating, judging, and excluding these people because of their lifestyle. We all sin. The punishment is the same. Our God is a loving, merciful, and forgiving God. Love will always win, but it’s God’s love that wins in the end. His love that caused him to send his son to live a perfect life, and then die so that death may be eternally defeated, and we may be continually forgiven for sins such as these. We should harbor nothing but love in our hearts for our neighbors, our brothers and sisters in Christ. In the end love really does win. God’s love. #Hebrews13:1 #John3:16